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2012-05-29T13:29:00.000-07:00

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Trash Thoughts Review

2012-04-19T16:23:00.001-07:00

Read your book this morning and WOW! I found the entire piece interesting and insightful. My applause to you for having the courage to dive in to the nasty battleground of the mind and expose the tools each of us have, but don't use, to win such a battle. It really is a war and to win it, as in any conflict, it takes communication, sacrifice, and will. But often times we choose to ignore even the existence of the enemies within that prevent us from achieving success in whatever we do. I agree that it is a "sink or swim" situation we are in with our minds and our fear of silence and oneness with ourselves is evidenced by societies fascination with voyeuristic reality shows, and peoples eyes glued to cell phone screens.

I completely agree with the "garbage in - garbage out" philosophy. How can we fight our own personal battles when we are so cluttered. You've encouraged me to clean out my mess, as soon as I build up the courage to inventory my own character!

Thank you and can't wait for your next book!

Donnie Winn

2012-04-01T17:30:00.002-07:00

A must read for every woman!

Excerpt - I come in contact with countless women, married and single, who feel they are alone in their feelings of dissatisfaction and inadequacy. For various reasons, women are not comfortable revealing these emotions openly, so it's kept a secret. Because it's a secret, our true self is masked. We hide behind makeup with a perfectly painted smile. We have mastered the game of charades. We build walls around our emotions by isolating ourselves from others, pouring into our jobs or school, working out, and sometimes we fill our plates with church ministry and volunteer work. Our goals and dreams are also used to camouflage our emotions. Of course we don't feel this way all the time, but each of us has experienced these feelings at some point in our life.

2012-03-19T06:18:00.001-07:00

Order your copy of "Trash Thoughts" today!

2012-03-08T16:13:00.000-08:00

The words within the pages of Trash Thoughts won't ruffle your feathers if you live in the real world, but if you possess the counterfeit character that comes out on Sundays, you may be a little uneasy reading this book.

It's time to confront the character of our mind.

It's time to align our private thoughts with our public walk.

Foreword written by Pastor Lonnie D. Wesley III

Greater Little Rock Baptist Church, FL

2012-02-06T07:18:00.000-08:00

Take a minute to read my Monday Meditation, "What's Your Story?"

2012-01-13T12:03:00.001-08:00

2011-09-04T15:45:00.001-07:00

Writing without reservation, without boundaries, and without fear is freedom!

HEARD TV Interview

2011-08-23T04:20:00.001-07:00

2011-04-07T08:06:00.000-07:00

The Masks We Wear

2011-04-04T05:41:00.000-07:00

We meet the world each day with our favorite game face. We wear the masks of:

Able Anna
Bubbly Bernice
Cool Cathy
Dependable Donna
Energetic Eunice
Faithful Felicia
Gorgeous Gertrude
Happy Helen
Independent Irene
Joyful Janice plus so many more...

It's time to TAKE OFF THE MASK!

Introduction - "We Snap in Silence"

2011-04-01T07:52:00.000-07:00

If you have never had a bad day, this book may not be for you. If you have it all together as a woman, are completely satisfied in your marriage, and have children that never ruffle your feathers, I encourage you to pass this book on to a friend. On the other hand, if you desire to experience fulfillment as a woman, wife, and mother while maintaining your peace of mind, continue reading!

This book begins by revealing a secret women share and as senseless as it sounds, we attempt to hide this secret from one another. We may never publicly admit it, but here are days we feel little value and worth in ourselves. As mother, there are days we feel we are about to lose our minds. As wives, we share days of feeling unloved and sometimes used. We go to work everyday, whether in the home or outside the home, as if everything in our life is okay. We care for our children hoping they won't see the pain we mask. Some of us go to church Sunday after Sunday, silently suffering in the pews. To put it plainly, we play the game of charades. The object of the game of charades is to find the appropriate game face for your particular situation and wear it to the best of your ability. Not only does playing the game welcome unnecessary stress in our life, but the pressure to play may cause us to snap...in silence.

Women are hurting, always tired, and often stressed out as wives and mother. We burn the candle at both ends, yet rarely speak of it. When we are together, we laugh and swap comical stories about our children and life in general. We say very little about our husbands and go home feeling good about how well we played the game. Being a woman is a high-pressure job and I can't think of one high pressure job that isn't accompanied by stress - the roles of wife and mother are no exception. Mothers have been overlooked long enough: wives can hardly help themselves but are called to be helpmates. This book not only exposes our shared secret, but also will help our families, friends, and mothers-to-be recognize the challenges endured on the journey of womanhood and teach them how to help us avoid snapping in silence.

Accepting my SELF

2011-04-01T03:45:00.000-07:00

Before I could accept other women being a part of my life, I had to accept myself. I was always taller than the average child growing up, skinny, chapped lips, pimples, reserved, and not really knowing what to do with my extra long limbs and the strong personality I kept hidden within. It confused me when people suggested I be a model. Okay...what should I model? Surely not myself! It wasn't until my adult years that I understood who I was and WHY I was. I now have an obligation, as a woman, to share the empowerment of the female with others. It's important we teach young girls to love themselves, so they can grow up being able to share and receive love - especially among their own gender.

Please visit the link below - a site created for this purpose.

Lovin' Me

WOMEN

2011-03-30T10:13:00.000-07:00

Sista, sister-friend, church-friend, girlfriend, sisterhood...do we really understand these terms or so do we casually throw them out when we're in a good mood, receive a favor, need a favor, someone agrees with us, or we've joined around a table of comfort food and everyone is feeling cozy at the moment?

Last night, I shared with a book club and we had a heart-felt discussion on...WOMEN. We're a strange species when it comes to relating to one another. A few of us shared how WOMEN were not our cup of tea and how God took us on a journey to show us why. Some of us are still on that journey as we learn to relate to other WOMEN. We all had somewhat similar stories to share.

As I drove home and processed our discussion, I realized there is way more to sisterhood than we may ever experience. There will always be reservations and doubts when relating and sharing with other women until we UNMASK as individuals and reveal who we really are. Many women are afraid to reveal their true Self. Some aren't as Christ-like as they portray. Some play the game of charades so well, we don't know who we're talking to. Some hide behind their career or family. Some quietly stand in the background not allowing anyone to get close, and we ALL create illusions for each other. WOMEN...we aren't always what we appear to be, but the least we can do is be who God created us to be.

Be REAL.

My Life Is Not My Own!

2010-12-31T08:01:00.000-08:00

Many women are too embarrassed to share their painful experiences and their valley moments, but once I realized my life was not my own to keep secret, God began to bless me in amazing ways.

Our tests can only be a testimony if we tell somebody. "We Snap in Silence" is a publication full of my mess that God continues to use to bless others. Sharing how I triumphed over my embarrassing circumstances only shows the awesome power of God!

LaVender S. Williams

2010-10-12T08:01:00.001-07:00

Excerpt:

"There have been instances in my life where God was either going to show me the reality of peace or I was going to lose my mind - literally. Before I found peace, I didn't feel loved by my husband or children. I felt used, abused, and unappreciated. I knew this wasn't how I was supposed to go through life, so I began my path to find perfect peace - I wasn't going to be satisfied with just peace. I wanted perfect peace as promised to me by God."

2010-08-13T06:11:00.000-07:00

Excerpt:

God created you with no mistakes. You were perfectly created with purpose. There is no one else like you and no one can do what you were created to do. No one can touch the lives you will touch. No one thinks like you or has the ideas and creativity you do. You are extraordinary just by being you. Recognize your value in the home. Recognize how much you're needed. How can we expect others to appreciate and recognize us when we done appreciate and recognize ourselves?

Attention!

2010-06-22T23:17:00.000-07:00

Don't make Things So Hard!

A must read article!

2010-05-13T14:18:00.000-07:00

Author, LaVender Williams, at work with son after receiving a call from
childcare that her son had a fever and needed to be picked up.
A defining moment of Motherhood.

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2010-04-22T19:13:00.000-07:00

We Snap in Silence

2010-04-19T22:00:00.001-07:00

Have you noticed? There's a secret out there, a secret many women share. A secret that women sometimes attempt to hide from one another, as senseless as that sounds.

Author LaVender S. Williams reveals the secret.

Women are hurting, always tired, and often suffering from stress as wives and mothers. Burning the candle at both ends is common. Yet many women keep this a secret; it is rarely acknowledged.

After 20 years of Naval service, Williams thought she was prepared to be a full-time loving wife and homeschooling mother, but instead she was forced to wear the mask of happiness to cover the secret.

"We Snap In Silence" brings the secret to light, unveiling Williams' private pain and taking the reader on a journey to finding peace... perfect peace.

This sharing of the reality of womanhood is a must-read for all.

Book Reviews

2009-11-07T05:54:00.000-08:00

"Ladies…are you ready for a page turner? Check out: “We Snap in Silence: Unveiling Private Pain and Finding Perfect Peace as a Woman, Wife and Mother.” The wisdom and experiences shared throughout this book are ...profound. Reading it reminded of the first time I’d read Iyanla Vanzant or Dick Gregory’s, “Nigger”. This book is chocked with t......ruths: the good, bad and ugly.

Angie Shelby, CA

"LaVender, if your chapter on "It's Not About You" didn't speak to me I don't know what did! Since I received your book, I have had to take in a little bit at a time, lest I spontaneously combust!"

Margaret Graham, Colorado Springs, CO

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Below review by Shanavian Strickland, AL
"After I started reading I could not put it down. The book reads like a long needed conversation between just the girls. I really enjoyed it. I totally agree with your book. I too, had to find peace within myself and I have been happier the last two years than I have been my entire life. If more women would open up they could help a lot of young girls. I truly believe if more women would open up we would have a lot less teen pregnancy, divorces and suicides. Not only do the women need to open up, the men need to open up as well. How can future generations improve if everyone around them are wearing masks? They will just mirror what they see.
Congratulations on the book."

Author Events

2009-11-06T09:28:00.000-08:00

Saturday, March 20th
8:30 a.m.
Book Sharing w/Readers and Writers Ink Book Club
Pensacola, FL

Tuesday, March 30th
Book Sharing w/ Journey's Book Club
Pensacola, FL

April 16, 17, 18th
Peace Baptist Church Women's Revival
Wynfrey/Riverchase Galleria
Birmingham, AL

Saturday May 1, 2010
New Author's Reception
Barnes & Noble Bookstore
10:30 am - 12:00 pm
Pensacola, FL

Friday/Saturday, May 7-8
NEX Pensacola
Book Sale - Great gift for Mother's Day
9 a.m. - closing

Momsweb's 10 Year Anniversary Celebration!
Saturday, May 29, 2010
click here for details

2009-06-05T14:07:00.000-07:00

About We Snap In Silence

2008-12-30T08:16:00.000-08:00

"We Snap In Silence" shares the good, the bad, and the ugly thoughts and emotions behind the author's days of trying to find peace in her own home - in her own mind.

"I thought I was going to lose my mind!"

Women are hurting, always tired, and often suffering from stress as wives and mothers. Burning the candle at both ends is common. Many women keep this a secret; it is rarely acknowledged.

Author, LaVender Williams, reveals the secret.

After 20 years of Naval service, Williams thought she was prepared to be a full-time loving wife and homeschooling mother, but instead she was forced to wear the mask of happiness to cover the secret.

"We Snap In Silence" brings the secret to light, unveiling Williams' private pain and taking the reader on a journey to finding peace... perfect peace.